Love May Not Be Blind

Joel M. Deutsch’s essay reveals perhaps as narrow an outlook as he condemns in the woman who rejects him because of his vision problem (“Love Through a Fractured Lens,” Dec. 10). He initially sizes up his blind date approvingly, commenting specifically on her “form-fitting jeans and sweater.” I wonder what sort of woman his personals ad had targeted (petite, pretty, physically fit?), or whether, in fielding responses to that ad, he seriously considered dating a heavy woman, a disabled woman or a woman who struggles with any kind of physical imperfection--as he struggles with his. Before Deutsch accuses his date of perhaps being a “monstrous narcissist,” he may want to take a long, hard look at his own dreams, desires and expectations.

E. Lynn Malchow

Pasadena