Good Parenting Laws Help Moms and Dads

Times staff writer Lynn Smith asks, “Can We Really Legislate Good Parenting?” (Jan. 18). The answer is yes and no. The problem is in the type of legislation we are talking about. Legislation that only seeks to punish parents will not work. Legislation that seeks to help parents will.

All too often the bubble bursts when children start to show their independence. This can happen anywhere from the terrible twos through the unpredictable teens.

What all parents need is a local hot line to call when they find they are in trouble with their kids. In Sweden they have an ombudsman people can call at any time they are having a problem with their children.

Since 1977, the Swedes’ anti-spanking and anti-humiliation laws have served them well. Since then, five other countries have adopted similar laws. It’s time this type of legislation be adopted by local and state governments in our country.

BENNY WASSERMAN

La Palma

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It is difficult for me to believe there are still those who believe that humiliating a child by paddling him in front of an open court is going to change his behavior.

The day I began respecting my daughter and loving her for herself was the day our relationship changed for the better. How can any child learn to become a good citizen, respectful and considerate of other people’s property without a good role model?

I would like to see legislators mandate classes on parenting and self-esteem for high schoolers rather than mandate more punishment. I think this could turn things around in one generation.

ANNE SUMIDA

Newhall